February 13, 2006
This is about as personal as it GETS ...
by AzureSkyy <cruel_reality@hotmail.com>
This is a copy of an email I sent my mother, just 15 minutes ago ... It's compiled of a letter-ish thing I wrote her personally before sending the mail, and several instant-messages between myself and some of my close friends ... Read at your discretion. I dont know WHY I'm posting it here, and trusting you all with it ... But I really don't know what else to do with myself anymore. Here it goes.
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... You took away my phone, cutting me off from some of the people that I cherish most ... Cutting me off from alot of the people that I have to end up helping through something or another nearly every day ... All those night phonecalls? Comforting Haylee. The morning ones? Checking up on Leah to see if she's still alive after all the family fights, divorce, and cancer-boutes. The afternoon ones? calling Holly, to cry and find someone to tell my troubles to during my lunch hour ... It's hard enough to survive things like what I'm showing you down below, without Dad being an asshole, you being unsupportive and unsympathetic, even if you dont know a shred of what's going on in my life...And despite those facts, you both still tell me "You can come to me with anything" and I just dont trust you anymore ... You, because you assume everything's hunky dory until I come crying into your lap because you've made the hurt worse by taking things away, and dad because ... I dont trust him, a single bit, and he never helps, only gets me angry, and takes things away again ...! I just... I can't win ... The blows keep on coming, the daggers keep poking through my back, only to find my heart... I can't take on a JOB! I'd collapse, or cry, or go postal on somebody ... And sports ..? ... I'm honest when I told you I'm just not good enough, and to jump in now, would be infinitely worse, and ... God, mother ... Those people are some of the worst people in school ... Everyone smokes, whether it's pot, cigerettes, both, and drinks, everything under the sun that I just dont feel like messing with ... That, and I can't stnad them just as people, without all the crap fucking with their bodies ... Grades ... I'll do my grades how I do them ... They're not spectacular, because I'm ... Completely and utterly emotionally driven ... My childhood's been stolen from me, and tainted, my once-best friend is dating the woman I loved, and still love, and can't get over for the life of me ... With all that's happened to me, and with her ... There's atleast three different things that went on between us without even Brian in the picture that would cripple a lesser man for life ... Asking me to have phenominal grades when my heart isnt in it, my talent is ebbing (I've wrriten maybe 3 creative things in the last 6 months ...) and when school is just simply -harder-, is ... Not fair, in any way imaginable ... I can't do it anymore ... I just .. Can't. Life means so little to me, lately ... It feels like I just live each day to be passively tormented by Emma, because I promised to be her friend (I keep my promises) and it hurts to be near her ... And Brian keeps trying to become friends again ... All I ask, is for sympathy, and a little freaking help ... Not directly ... Because I dont believe there's anything you, or dad, or the psychiatrist, or the GODDAMN pills they tried three dozen times to get me to take home, can help ... I'm left alone, to work the politics in my own little world. Help me out, stop taking critical things to my sanity and well-being away, at critical times ... I need you, indirectly, so badly, mother. Please. I'm dying inside up here, every freaking day. Now ... Read. This, is why I was so pissed, depressed, and so many more things... hear me out... Because I've meant every word, and always have ... Read on ... And if you love me, then, please ... Dont stop reading til the end, look back on it, and tell me that I'm not doing a hell of a job with the fucked-up life I've got ...
.--------------------------------------------------------------------. | Session Start: Saturday, February 11, 2006 | | Participants: | | ...roken Day] - Happy Birthday Mum. (cruel_reality@hotmail.com) | | ~*Brian*~ (Happy Birthday Cristina!!) (briansalo1@yahoo.com) | .--------------------------------------------------------------------. [07:00:08 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: didn't see curious george, it was sold out. lol [07:00:24 PM] One Time (Al: Heh. Darn. [07:00:40 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: saw Final Destination 3 instead, while the rest of the group was in George [07:00:46 PM] One Time (Al: mm. [07:01:05 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: that movie ruins certain things for you [07:01:09 PM] One Time (Al: ..? [07:01:27 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: have you seen any of the Final Destinations? [07:03:14 PM] One Time (Al: Yes. [07:03:17 PM] One Time (Al: I II. [07:03:41 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: yeah, like for instance the 2nd one ruins logging trucks. lol [07:03:57 PM] One Time (Al: Naw. [07:04:15 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: this one ruins roller coasters, and tanning beds, and nail guns, and etc.. lol [07:05:02 PM] One Time (Al: -.-; [07:05:12 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: lol. "multi faceted" [07:05:15 PM] One Time (Al: Heh. [07:05:27 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: I'm surprised I remember that, I was so out of it [07:05:31 PM] One Time (Al: *shrugs* [07:05:38 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: lol yup [07:05:57 PM] One Time (Al: Whatcha up to. [07:06:11 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: just chillin right now, I just got home from Cristina's. [07:06:30 PM] One Time (Al: Mmm. [07:06:36 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: hoppin on the 'ol myspace [07:07:51 PM] One Time (Al: Yup. [07:08:38 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: nice! a buddy that I graduated with just added me as a friend. I've only seen him once since grad, at his wedding, lol. he's in the air force and out in delaware now [07:09:12 PM] One Time (Al: Mmm. [07:09:30 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: yup. what are you up to [07:10:32 PM] One Time (Al: Not alot. [07:10:43 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: thats.. fun? [07:11:14 PM] One Time (Al: Uh huh. [07:11:38 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: lol [07:12:20 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: you're not too big of a myspace junkie, are you? [07:13:25 PM] One Time (Al: ..No. [07:14:05 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: you're like the only one on the planer [07:14:07 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: *planet [07:14:59 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: have you heard Panic! At The Disco at all? [07:15:06 PM] One Time (Al: Nope. [07:15:30 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: good stuff.. rather similar to Fall Out Boy, if you're familiar with them at all. [07:15:44 PM] One Time (Al: A little. But aside from maybe 2 songs, I dont like them much. [07:16:24 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: lol, lemme guess.. Sugar, we're going down, and Dance, Dance [07:17:04 PM] One Time (Al: Havent heard Dance, Dance. [07:17:11 PM] One Time (Al: I dont remember the name of the other song. [07:17:36 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: they're both hugely radio and mtv friendly songs at the moment [07:17:51 PM] One Time (Al: Mmm. [07:18:13 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: damn mtv.. I got glued to it when we didn't have the net forever [07:21:06 PM] One Time (Al: Heh. [07:29:09 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: blah. I've talked to all of my ex's but one in the last week [07:29:17 PM] One Time (Al: =_= [07:29:43 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: did like the world hear i'm single or something? lol [07:29:53 PM] One Time (Al: =\ I guess they did. [07:30:25 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: lolz. [07:30:54 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: i'll still have to get that movie to you to [07:30:55 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: *too [07:31:08 PM] One Time (Al: Yup. [07:43:05 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: do anything fun with ma for her bday? [07:43:46 PM] One Time (Al: Went to dinner, and she left from there straight to a Partylitee candle thing. =T [07:44:02 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: ...fun lol [07:44:42 PM] One Time (Al: ...Uh huh. [07:45:05 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: |-) [08:09:58 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: blah, whats up [08:10:19 PM] One Time (Al: Playing WoW with Zach. [08:10:33 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: huh, thats cool. I'm so bored. [08:10:36 PM] One Time (Al: =_= [08:10:37 PM] One Time (Al: Yeah. [08:10:58 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: my plans got changed, so now i'm just, yeah. lol [08:11:31 PM] One Time (Al: Plans? [08:11:44 PM] One Time (Al: Who'd you have plans with lol. [08:12:07 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: a girl I met a while back, we were supposed to go bowling, but she never got back to me [08:12:18 PM] One Time (Al: Ah. [08:12:52 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: yup.. [08:13:53 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: plans with chicks never turn out how you want. lol [08:14:00 PM] One Time (Al: Lol. Amen. [08:14:29 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: no kiddin [08:33:25 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: i'm losing my freaking mind. lol [08:33:36 PM] One Time (Al: How come? [08:33:55 PM] ~*Brian*~ (H: ? [08:34:15 PM] * ~*Brian*~ (Happy Birthday Cristina!!) has changed his/her name to ~*Brian*~ [08:34:58 PM] ~*Brian*~: it said you were typing more, so I was wondering what else you were gonna say, lol [08:35:07 PM] One Time (Al: Lol? [08:35:09 PM] One Time (Al: [08:35:22 PM] ~*Brian*~: don't ask.. lol [08:35:29 PM] One Time (Al: . . . Right. [08:35:42 PM] ~*Brian*~: but, i'm losing my mind out of boredom [08:36:55 PM] ~*Brian*~: i'm getting tempted to run that movie up to you based off of nothing else to do, lol [08:37:35 PM] One Time (Al: xD [08:37:41 PM] One Time (Al: 722 Clay Street. [08:37:45 PM] ~*Brian*~: no kidding. lol. [08:37:57 PM] ~*Brian*~: I've only been in that house 7 and a half million times. lol [08:38:03 PM] One Time (Al: ;) [08:38:25 PM] ~*Brian*~: would you care? we haven't hung out in forever, so [08:38:57 PM] One Time (Al: Uhm ... I dunno what we'd -do-, but sure.. [08:39:17 PM] ~*Brian*~: lol, the usual.. sit around, bs, etc.. it's what we're best at. [08:40:05 PM] One Time (Al: Guesso. [08:40:25 PM] ~*Brian*~: is mom as big on the curfew thing as dad is? [08:40:45 PM] One Time (Al: Not anywhere near it. [08:40:48 PM] One Time (Al: Besides, she's not home. [08:41:09 PM] ~*Brian*~: oh alright. maybe I shall do that then. (horrible english) [08:41:16 PM] One Time (Al: Lol. okay. [08:41:26 PM] ~*Brian*~: English so bad it hurts, lol [08:41:37 PM] One Time (Al: ...Like daggers. [08:41:47 PM] ~*Brian*~: yup. right in the appendix [08:42:26 PM] One Time (Al: =_= [08:43:17 PM] ~*Brian*~: lol, i'll get the movie and head up in a sec. have any working doorbell or door preference that I go to? [08:44:51 PM] One Time (Al: Uhm ... Just pop in the front. [08:45:06 PM] ~*Brian*~: like pop in, walk in? [08:45:11 PM] One Time (Al: Chya. [08:45:23 PM] ~*Brian*~: okey, lol. you upstairs? [08:46:14 PM] One Time (Al: Proly? Gonna try finishing a quest withZach before you get here, haha, otherwise I'll be downstairs and wait for you or something. [08:46:23 PM] ~*Brian*~: ok sounds good, see ya in a couple [08:46:52 PM] * ~*Brian*~ is now Offline .--------------------------------------------------------------------. | Session Start: Sunday, February 12, 2006 | | Participants: | | Scary.. (cruel_reality@hotmail.com) | | ~*Brian*~ (briansalo1@yahoo.com) | .--------------------------------------------------------------------. [10:14:04 AM] ~*Brian*~: top [10:14:06 AM] ~*Brian*~: o the mornin [10:47:22 AM] ~*Brian*~: we need to talk, and just get it out of the way I think.. .--------------------------------------------------------------------. | Session Start: Sunday, February 12, 2006 | | Participants: | | ... away, come again another day .. (cruel_reality@hotmail.com) | | B-rian (briansalo1@yahoo.com) | .--------------------------------------------------------------------. [09:12:28 PM] B-rian: ...hello [09:12:35 PM] Rain, rain, : ...Hi. [09:12:59 PM] * Rain, rain, go away, come again another day .. is now Busy [09:13:02 PM] B-rian: blah blah blah, how are things? [09:13:20 PM] * Rain, rain, go away, come again another day .. is now Online [09:13:26 PM] Rain, rain, : Shitty. [09:13:37 PM] B-rian: sorry man, truthfully. [09:13:40 PM] Rain, rain, : Uh huh. [09:14:21 PM] B-rian: I know you probably hate my guts and so on right now, and i'm willing to accept that. [09:14:49 PM] Rain, rain, : ...Cut the therapist-talk. I can't stand it. Really. Talk like a normal person. Please. It reminds me of my dad. [09:15:22 PM] B-rian: what do you mean? [09:15:38 PM] * B-rian has changed his/her name to ~*Brian*~ [09:15:39 PM] Rain, rain, : "And I'm willing to accept that". Please. Dont do that. I feel like I'm arguing with my father. [09:15:51 PM] ~*Brian*~: oh, sorry. unintentional. [09:15:54 PM] Rain, rain, : ... [09:15:57 PM] Rain, rain, : Anywho. [09:16:09 PM] ~*Brian*~: *shrugs* I dunno what arguing with your pa is like [09:16:17 PM] Rain, rain, : ..He doesnt matter, right now. [09:16:29 PM] Rain, rain, : It's just us kiddies. [09:16:30 PM] ~*Brian*~: ture [09:16:31 PM] ~*Brian*~: *true [09:18:02 PM] ~*Brian*~: what I meant this morning though, when I said we might as well get the talking out of the way, is that I'm not gonna play dumb and act like you don't know anything or any crap like that, so I wanted to cut through all the crap and get it out of the way, and hopefully possibly continue a friendship thats lasted eons. [09:19:20 PM] Rain, rain, : ... How many times've you had her over? Knowing how I still felt about her? Not like it means anything, but I'm pretty sure you dont date your best friend's (At least at one time.) ex that he's still in love with. You know, unwritten rule, strike a bell? [09:20:38 PM] ~*Brian*~: ...I know, and i'm sure you've heard it from her, but this wasn't like an intended thing or anything.. hell, I didn't even know you were with her at all, until after you had told me that you and her were broken up already. [09:21:08 PM] Rain, rain, : ... This isnt even RECENT?! [09:21:27 PM] ~*Brian*~: what do you mean? [09:21:31 PM] Rain, rain, : No, she doesnt like to tell me too too much anymore.She told me she had feelings for you, and that she thought you probably liked her. That's all. [09:22:07 PM] Rain, rain, : ...How long've you been .. I dont even know what the hell the phrase would be. How long've you been thinking about being with her. [09:22:59 PM] ~*Brian*~: we've only been talking and such for like, a week, maybe week and a half tops. Trust me completely when I say that nothing was going on before or when you were with her. [09:23:51 PM] Rain, rain, : Somehow I dont believe you anymore. [09:24:22 PM] ~*Brian*~: I swear on my fathers grave man, nothing was going on before or during you were with her. I'm stone cold serious here. [09:26:42 PM] Rain, rain, : ... But you were thinking about it, subtely working toward it, hmm? Become friends first, then, hey, she's pretty cool, maybe maybe ... I'll wait a month, til my friend 'gets over it', then I'll start on it. Oh, what's another week, I'm impatient. [09:26:50 PM] Rain, rain, : Running out of time and all, arentcha. [09:27:26 PM] ~*Brian*~: there were no thoughts at all on my behalf about anything like that when you were with her. none. [09:28:06 PM] Rain, rain, : ... [09:28:24 PM] Rain, rain, : I'm just too fucking pissed for words, Brian. You dont even know. [09:28:56 PM] ~*Brian*~: you have the right to be, thats why I'm being straight honest with you, and talking to you about it like a man. [09:30:42 PM] Rain, rain, : I can't be mad at her. It's just not even in me to really try. I can be hurt, and disappointed, and sad, and scared, and maybe a little injusticed-feeling, but not mad. I can't do it. It's you I'm pissed at, you I dont trust, and ... How could you even do this to me, then ask me to be friends again? How do you have a friendship, when I have to have this over my head when I talk to you...? Even, later in life. "Oh, remember that one time? Yeah. I still flinch to look at you. So, how's your day been?" [09:32:22 PM] ~*Brian*~: I'm not going to argue with your point when you're in the right about it, all I can do is sit here and be honest with you about it. [09:32:22 PM] Rain, rain, : It'd be nice to be friends with you. You're a pretty cool person. You've got good taste in music. We shared a fucking childhood together, and frequently reminisc for chrissake. [09:32:47 PM] ~*Brian*~: exactly. [09:32:56 PM] ~*Brian*~: for the latter half at least. [09:33:32 PM] Rain, rain, : ... So what're you going to do. Stay with her, until the military takes you away? Have a.. A what, a fling, just for fun thing? Or fall in love with her, and then be like "Damn, sorry babe, gotta go kick some ass for the country, I'll -write you-!?" [09:33:35 PM] ~*Brian*~: you were like a brother, man. thats why i'm standing my ground and talking to you about this. you deserve that much respect. [09:35:13 PM] ~*Brian*~: and I don't honestly know whats going to happen in the future. too many relationships that i've been in have been ruined talking about the future. we're only worrying about the present, and we're both well aware of the fact that i'm leaving and so on. [09:35:20 PM] Rain, rain, : ...This isnt about respect, and you know it. This is about you pulling a shitty thing on a fallen man, now self-labeled as a brother. It's about hurt feelings, and setting them aside because nobody wants to look at that. It's about the girl both of us want, and both of us know I can't have, because I fucked up, most of it actually after-the-fact. [09:37:21 PM] Rain, rain, : And now you've got a good thing going on because of it. She's lonely. She wants somebody to love. She's always been that way, she's wanted a hand to hold, someone to comfort her, for so long ... You should have seen her before I helped her out of little bits of it, Brian. Everyone, everybody, could see the changes. [09:37:51 PM] ~*Brian*~: what changes do you mean? [09:39:54 PM] Rain, rain, : You found a good thing, because I poured my heart and soul into helping her show herself, the person i saw in the shell, under the cover she'd been hiding under. She's not timid, like she used to be. She's not as scared as she used to be. She's so much more, but it was there if you wanted to look hard enough. I saw it. And helped her come out from hiding. And now you see it. You've found a good thing, but only after I helped her find parts of herself. [09:40:47 PM] ~*Brian*~: and I won't take that away from you, you probably did do that, I didn't know her before then obviously.. [09:43:29 PM] Rain, rain, : ... I dont even know what I'm saying anymore. I had a good reason, for that whole speech ... But the reason's gone, and I come off as a jackass. An arrogant possessive jackass. Oh, the joy. This just going soooo well ... [09:45:54 PM] Rain, rain, : ... I'd love to just say "You know, what the hell. date her. We'll be friends. She's a big girl, she can take care of herself. I'll be friends with her, too. We'll all just be dandy." But I can't. Been crushed too many times, and it's just too goddamn hard to stand up and hold my chin up off the ground. I won't let you break her heart. And I wont let you leave her standing in the wind, waiting on a cliff's edge, waiting, for you, to come riding back to the US in a boat. If she loves you, falls hard, and keeps falling, she'll wait. For a long, long time. [09:47:12 PM] ~*Brian*~: I have absolutely NO intent of hurting her, that much I swear to you. [09:47:46 PM] ~*Brian*~: yes, people might call me an asshole, for due reason, but there isn't a thing in this world that could make me intentionally hurt this girl. [09:48:18 PM] Rain, rain, : .. I can't do anything here. And you two keep giving me options that dont exist, because no matter what I say, no matter what I do, I still dont really matter here. [09:48:34 PM] ~*Brian*~: not only would hurting her be unfair to her, it would be unfair to you as well, in a way. [09:48:37 PM] Rain, rain, : ... Brian, I hope to hell and back, that you mean that. Every word of that. [09:49:15 PM] Rain, rain, : ... I dont give a fuck if it's "unfair", because thing sbeing unfair doesnt, and never has, stopped people from doing much of anything. It better mean more to you than Fairness, Brian. [09:49:37 PM] ~*Brian*~: of course it does. [09:50:21 PM] ~*Brian*~: what I care about most is making this girl as happy as possible, and I see the potential in myself to do that job damned well. She's a great girl, and she deserves that. [09:50:57 PM] ~*Brian*~: I'm not doing it to get you pissed off or anything, i'm not capitilizing on any downfall you may have had with her, hell, I don't even want to know what went wrong between you and her. [09:51:37 PM] ~*Brian*~: All I know is that this girl cares a lot about me, and there isn't a chance in hell that I'm going to take that for granted or ruin that. [09:52:58 PM] ~*Brian*~: if I were to intentionally hurt her, I would stand there with my arms and let you take the punch. completely honestly, man. [09:53:04 PM] ~*Brian*~: *arms at my side* [09:56:43 PM] Rain, rain, : ... If you hurt her, and let me take a punch, Brian, I wouldnt be able to promise you, or her, or me, that I'd stop swinging. So just don't do it. Emma means more to me than any person I've ever known, more to me than growing up with you, more to me than my mother, my father, my family my friends. And I can't even make eye contact with her on most days. I can't think about her without growing cold at the fingertips, and tears growing in the lower corners of my eyes. Don't ever hurt her. Help her. Always. [09:57:13 PM] ~*Brian*~: I swear it. [09:58:48 PM] Rain, rain, : Whether or not she tells you she needs you. Because she wont tell you. Until, or unless, it is really, really hard for her. You need to be able to tell. And most times, even that's not enough. You need to be superhuman. And before you take on the job, you'd sure as hell better know what it means to be near and dear to her heart, and be able to keep her next to your's, and in your thoughts, and close at hand. [09:59:26 PM] ~*Brian*~: she's already said more than enough to me to keep her there. [10:00:08 PM] ~*Brian*~: I don't take one loving thing that she says for granted, because I can tell she is very guarded person, and doesn't open up very easily, yet for some reason with me, she seems to open up fairly easily. [10:01:33 PM] Rain, rain, : ... I hope you know how much what you're saying is supposed to mean. Because it's not just being guarded with her. It's on a whole new, mysterious level. She's no ordinary girl, no combination of any other girls. [10:01:48 PM] ~*Brian*~: I know that already by far, [10:01:51 PM] ~*Brian*~: *. [10:01:57 PM] Rain, rain, : I dont think you do. But okay. [10:02:25 PM] ~*Brian*~: I don't take her comfortable-ness with me for granted, thats for sure as hell a fact. [10:03:29 PM] Rain, rain, : ... I'm not saying you do. I'm just saying, that I think you both underestimate, and overestimate her. By so much. [10:03:47 PM] ~*Brian*~: how do you think I overestimate her? [10:04:03 PM] Rain, rain, : ... You ask that, over the underestimation ... [10:04:30 PM] ~*Brian*~: well I have more of a grasp on the underestimation I think.. I dunno.. *shrugs* [10:04:35 PM] ~*Brian*~: explain both then, I dunno? [10:05:54 PM] Rain, rain, : ... Because. She's better at hiding, than any person I've ever known. She's better at pretending, better at everything. You can't open her mind, heart, emotions, uness she wants them opened. Completely. You'll do more harm than help if you push it, you'll hurt the both of you, even if she says she appreciates it that you try. [10:06:35 PM] ~*Brian*~: I never push a person to open up. I wait for them to feel comfortable enough with me to. [10:07:00 PM] Rain, rain, : ... And even yet? Don't dismiss a thing. [10:07:01 PM] ~*Brian*~: All I can do is be there for that person, and make sure they know that I am there completely. [10:07:19 PM] ~*Brian*~: what do you mean? [10:08:49 PM] Rain, rain, : ... I can't put everything into words... Even what I've been able to say? Doesn't do much justice to anything at all, and there's so much more to everything. [10:09:05 PM] ~*Brian*~: of course [10:12:42 PM] ~*Brian*~: All that I've said has been complete honesty, and from the bottom of my heart. I know you don't like me probably, and I don't expect you to, but I at least ask you to respect that. [10:13:22 PM] Rain, rain, : ... How much time've you spent with her? I just .. It makes me really curious, that you seem to have strong conviction when you say things like "I don't take her comfortable-ness with me for granted, thats for sure as hell a fact." and "she's already said more than enough to me to keep her there." and "I don't take one loving thing that she says for granted" ... I just have to wonder at you. [10:13:49 PM] ~*Brian*~: we've been together.. 4 times? and talked online for hours and hours. [10:13:55 PM] Rain, rain, : Well, not strong conviction, but that you believe firmly that that's how she is between you. [10:16:05 PM] Rain, rain, : ... I dunno. I can't say much, because I was about to say that that doesnt mean alot, but .. I believe in the phrase "A day can last a lifetime, and lifetimes can happen in a single day.", but ... It just makes me sad, but hopeful, doubtful, and ... I dunno .. [10:16:29 PM] ~*Brian*~: what do you mean by the hopeful doubtful, etc.. thing? [10:17:47 PM] Rain, rain, : ... Hoping that it's really as strong as you feel it is, doubtful that it is that way, and ... It just ... I dunno. It's odd ... It just ... It's odd. [10:19:10 PM] Rain, rain, : ... Have you been shwing her all this? [10:19:25 PM] ~*Brian*~: well, I can give you kind of an example of her feelings and comfortable ness with me, if you like..? [10:19:46 PM] Rain, rain, : ... I'd ...I'd really rather not, but .. Gah .. Yes, I'd like to see. [10:20:08 PM] ~*Brian*~: well, it's not seeing, it's just citing something.. [10:20:25 PM] Rain, rain, : ...bad diction. Whatever.Cite away. [10:20:31 PM] ~*Brian*~: lol. sorry [10:21:21 PM] ~*Brian*~: but anyways, the second time she was over, she was comfortable enough to have her arms exposed, which I know is an absolute HUGE thing for her to be comfortable with around someone, if thats an indication of anything, or if you can understand what that means.. [10:22:48 PM] Rain, rain, : ... It doesnt mean quite as much as it would have before ... Before ..? It would have been an -extreme- show of trust and comfort ... But she's trying to get out of it ... She's been wearing short-sleeves and such for a few weeks, maybe a month or a little more. She wore a skirt for Halloween, and another one without hose even 3 weeks ago. [10:23:24 PM] Rain, rain, : And almost bought a bathing suit when she was shopping for the skirt. [10:23:32 PM] ~*Brian*~: well, it meant a lot to me at least. [10:23:37 PM] Rain, rain, : *nods* [10:24:34 PM] Rain, rain, : I'm glad, for that atleast, that you saw it for how it could've been ... But I'm not sure you knew it's true value to begin with ... Check out her old journals, someday, from 2003-2004 ... [10:24:59 PM] Rain, rain, : And early-ish '05, as well. [10:25:31 PM] ~*Brian*~: she's told me about that.. [10:26:19 PM] Rain, rain, : ... She leaves alot out, when she talks about it. [10:26:32 PM] ~*Brian*~: I assumed that already. [10:27:11 PM] ~*Brian*~: I obviously have a long way to go, and a lot to learn.. I can't know everything there is to know about a girl in a week and a half.. Even i'm not that good. (bad time for a joke, but nonetheless, it's me..) [10:27:30 PM] Rain, rain, : *frowns* Yes, it was a terrible time for a joke ... [10:27:55 PM] ~*Brian*~: i'm good for that [10:28:06 PM] Rain, rain, : .. It's not a journey, and there are no goals, Bri. [10:28:31 PM] ~*Brian*~: I know. [10:28:50 PM] Rain, rain, : And it's not an apprenticeship. There's nothing to master. [10:29:16 PM] ~*Brian*~: good analogy, and I know that as well. [10:31:21 PM] ~*Brian*~: all I can do is be the most supporting, caring, loving person imaginable for her, and always be there for her. [10:32:55 PM] * Rain, rain, go away, come again another day .. has changed his/her name to ... There are worlds, hiding behind words, and words with worls within ... [10:33:06 PM] ... There ar: ^ Always know that. [10:33:28 PM] ~*Brian*~: of course. [10:33:40 PM] ... There ar: I'll let you go ... You've probably been wanting to stop talking for a long time. [10:34:08 PM] ~*Brian*~: no, not at all. if you want to stop, thats up to you, but I'm not in any rush. [10:35:15 PM] ... There ar: Toodles. [10:35:37 PM] ~*Brian*~: Can I ask one simple yes or no question first though? [10:35:45 PM] ... There ar: Shoot. [10:35:55 PM] ~*Brian*~: Do you hate me? [10:37:21 PM] ... There ar: ..No. [10:38:04 PM] ~*Brian*~: okay, good. I'm pleased about that at least. I hope we can get back what we had at one point sometime. [10:38:53 PM] ... There ar: Maybe. I don't forget things that matter. But maybe. [10:40:33 PM] ~*Brian*~: I can't expect you to rush back or anything obviously, all I can do is extend the invitation of the friendship we had, and hope you gradually accept it. [10:41:49 PM] ... There ar: ... If I do accept it, Brian, it wont be gradually, and it wont be the same. That's just lying to yourself, in pieces. It'll be different, but it'll be there. [10:42:35 PM] ~*Brian*~: hmn.. [10:44:57 PM] ~*Brian*~: I respect your willingness to talk to me about this, given the current circumstances and the issue at hand. [10:45:22 PM] ... There ar: ... You're doing it again. [10:45:53 PM] ~*Brian*~: the dad thing? [10:46:46 PM] ... There ar: Not just that it's a Dad thing, but that you're making everything clear-cut, cordial, tasteless, and cold-calculated. [10:47:04 PM] ~*Brian*~: wow, i'm not even gonna pretend like I understand what you mean. [10:47:42 PM] ... There ar: *sighs, frowns deeply* I know. .--------------------------------------------------------------------. | Session Start: Sunday, February 12, 2006 | | Participants: | | ... and words with worls within ... (cruel_reality@hotmail.com) | | ...n't love you like I love you... (star_crossed_1@hotmail.com) | .--------------------------------------------------------------------. [10:35:24 PM] ... There ar: ...Hey. [10:35:36 PM] They don't l: hi [10:36:49 PM] They don't l: how're you doing? [10:37:07 PM] ... There ar: ...Ha... I dont even know. [10:37:11 PM] They don't l: yeah.. [10:37:15 PM] They don't l: do you wnat to talk? [10:37:49 PM] ... There ar: ... I'm not sure exactly what parts to talk about, but, I think it'd be nice ... [10:37:58 PM] They don't l: *nods* yeah.. [10:38:05 PM] They don't l: is there anythign you'd like to know? [10:38:06 PM] ... There ar: You lead it where you want to go .. [10:38:59 PM] They don't l: do you think i ever cheated on you? [10:40:47 PM] ... There ar: ... It feels like it. Felt that way often, when yu'd be with Laura ... More of a vague way, with Brian ... But no. I dont think you ever actually did anything to be called cheating. [10:41:38 PM] They don't l: okay..*nods* thats good. i just.. wnat you to always know that i didn't. [10:41:51 PM] They don't l: and i mean that complete. and i hope you believe me on that [10:42:03 PM] ... There ar: I do. [10:42:11 PM] They don't l: thank you for that [10:42:16 PM] ... There ar: *nods* [10:42:25 PM] They don't l: is there anythign that you would liek to know tho? [10:42:52 PM] ... There ar: Has he been showing you bits of the conversation? [10:43:13 PM] They don't l: a lil' not too much really tho. [10:43:16 PM] ... There ar: Just, yes/no and what bits. I kinda hope he's been atleast a little. [10:44:28 PM] They don't l: he really kinda hasn't to be completley honest. [10:44:29 PM] They don't l: so no [10:44:38 PM] ... There ar: ...What do you mean? [10:44:48 PM] ... There ar: Oh, nevermind. x.x [10:45:11 PM] ... There ar: Thought you said "he really hasnt kinda BEEN completely honest" and... Yeah, nevermind, lol.. [10:45:40 PM] They don't l: lol yeah [10:45:59 PM] ... There ar: Uhm ... Gah. Wish you could just read the whole thing, but that'd take -forever- ... [10:46:19 PM] They don't l: i'm sorry.. [10:46:25 PM] They don't l: do you want to send ti or soemthing? [10:46:34 PM] They don't l: or do you want me to get him to send it? [10:47:11 PM] ... There ar: Uhm ... Here. I'll just send it myself ... [10:47:16 PM] They don't l: okay [10:47:31 PM] ... There ar: I hate to make you read for so long, and regret that we can't talk while you're reading .. [10:47:51 PM] They don't l: its okay hon.. not a big deal. [10:47:53 PM] They don't l: i have all night [10:48:12 PM] ... There ar: ... I suppose you should still ask him if he wants you to see it tho. [10:49:27 PM] They don't l: okay. i will. tho i'm pretty sure its completely fine [10:49:44 PM] They don't l: yeah.. its fine [10:49:47 PM] They don't l: send away [10:49:49 PM] ... There ar: Sec. [10:50:01 PM] They don't l: okay [10:50:05 PM] ... There ar: .. I feel I should show you a few older ones, too.. Small excerpts is all. [10:50:11 PM] They don't l: ok [10:50:15 PM] They don't l: thats fine [10:51:43 PM] ... There ar: Might take a bit. =( [10:52:28 PM] They don't l: its okay. .take your time, matt [10:54:03 PM] ... There ar: ...Gah. The other convo I wanted to show you got lost with my old harddrive ... [10:54:17 PM] ... There ar: Hopefully, it's meaningless now, though .. [10:54:33 PM] They don't l: okay.. [10:56:22 PM] ... There ar: Oh ... Sorry. Didnt realize there was a bunch of fluff (Useless stuff) at the start there .. [10:57:00 PM] ... There ar: haha ... Scratch that. Sorry. [10:57:11 PM] ... There ar: Was looking at the wrong file ... I sent what I intended. [11:00:05 PM] They don't l: oh. .okay.. [11:00:07 PM] They don't l: i'll get to it [11:00:12 PM] ... There ar: ...? [11:00:33 PM] They don't l: okay [11:00:54 PM] ... There ar: Reading, now? [11:02:21 PM] They don't l: yeah [11:15:41 PM] ... There ar: Almost done? [11:15:58 PM] * ... There are worlds, hiding behind words, and words with worls within ... has changed his/her name to ... There are worlds, hiding behind words, and words with worlds within ... [11:16:31 PM] They don't l: don [11:16:33 PM] They don't l: e [11:16:38 PM] ... There ar: Mmm ... [11:17:29 PM] ... There ar: What do you think. [11:17:40 PM] They don't l: um. i creid [11:18:11 PM] ... There ar: I'm sorry ... [11:18:41 PM] ... There ar: But ... All that needed to be said ... I really hadnt intended to show much of it to you, especially ... The things at the top. [11:18:43 PM] They don't l: no.. its okay [11:18:55 PM] They don't l: i know.. its okay tho, i swear [11:19:10 PM] ... There ar: ... Okay's not always a good thing ... [11:19:14 PM] ... There ar: But alright .. [11:20:05 PM] They don't l: yeah.. [11:20:12 PM] They don't l: soryr. i'm not sure hwat to say [11:20:19 PM] ... There ar: Me either ... [11:20:47 PM] ... There ar: ... -Are- you really the way he keeps saying you are, when you're with/talking to, him ...? [11:21:07 PM] They don't l: that i'm completely open and comfortable? [11:21:12 PM] ... There ar: Haha .. Yeah. [11:21:16 PM] They don't l: or that i have really strong feelings for him? [11:21:22 PM] ... There ar: ...That too. [11:21:25 PM] They don't l: yes. [11:21:36 PM] ... There ar: I see. [11:21:52 PM] They don't l: yeah. [11:21:53 PM] They don't l: i'm sorry. [11:22:01 PM] ... There ar: Dont be sorry .. [11:22:06 PM] They don't l: i hate the fact that i'm hurting you like this.. [11:22:08 PM] They don't l: i can't help it. [11:22:14 PM] They don't l: i don't want it [11:22:17 PM] They don't l: i never have [11:22:32 PM] ... There ar: That's an amazing thing for you. I was laughing at him when he said it ... And I'm rather surprised that it's actually that way. [11:22:45 PM] ... There ar: Dont be sorry for that. [11:23:53 PM] They don't l: yeah. it is. [11:24:24 PM] They don't l: i promise you, if i didn't have as strong as feeling for him as i do, i wouldn't even both. i know this is hurting you so much. [11:24:55 PM] ... There ar: (Both what?) [11:25:08 PM] ... There ar: You dont have to promise me, tho. [11:25:33 PM] They don't l: oh sorr.. *bother [11:25:39 PM] ... There ar: Ah. [11:25:56 PM] ... There ar: Do you love him? [11:26:21 PM] They don't l: 8nods* yeah. i do. [11:26:26 PM] ... There ar: *nods back* [11:26:44 PM] They don't l: i'm so sorry matt. [11:26:51 PM] They don't l: *sighs* [11:26:58 PM] ... There ar: *sighs back* Me too ... [11:27:06 PM] They don't l: *hugs* [11:27:18 PM] They don't l: i'm always here for you.. i hope you know that and still believe meon that [11:27:26 PM] ... There ar: ... I know. [11:27:31 PM] ... There ar: .. Same, here ... [11:27:43 PM] They don't l: thank you.. that means the owrld. [11:27:48 PM] ... There ar: I'm glad. [11:28:10 PM] They don't l: *smiels* [11:29:33 PM] ... There ar: ...Why do you think you feel the way you do about him? [11:29:52 PM] They don't l: i'm not totally sure. [11:29:54 PM] They don't l: he jsut.. [11:29:59 PM] They don't l: i'm not sure. [11:30:02 PM] They don't l: but i just do. [11:30:12 PM] ... There ar: *frowns slightly* Okay. [11:32:39 PM] They don't l: i'm sorry.. that wasn't the best asnwer, was it? [11:33:36 PM] ... There ar: ... There should never be a "best" answer. I can't say I expected more, though, honestly. I'd've been slightly surprised. [11:34:26 PM] They don't l: yeah [11:38:08 PM] ... There ar: ... I just ... I hope this works out for you. To me ... He just ... I dunno. [11:39:28 PM] ... There ar: ... I hate spoiling this for you, beause I feel it's a very, very special time when you exchange it, but ... You'll still have that virgin-moment (Admitting to love) because it's only special when you can see their eyes and hear it... [11:40:02 PM] ... There ar: .. There are worlds, hiding behind words, and words with worlds within ... says: ...Do you love her? ~*Brian*~ says: would you even honestly want me to answer that? with common sense.. ... There are worlds, hiding behind words, and words with worlds within ... says: ...Yes. I do. Infact, I feel it's very important. ~*Brian*~ says: yes. ... There are worlds, hiding behind words, and words with worlds within ... says: Why do you believe you feel the way you do about her? ~*Brian*~ says: it's not a belief, its a knowledge. ... There are worlds, hiding behind words, and words with worlds within ... says: You're dodging the question. ... There are worlds, hiding behind words, and words with worlds within ... says: Bad diction, if you will, on mine. ~*Brian*~ says: no I'm not ... There are worlds, hiding behind words, and words with worlds within ... says: ... Then if you'd please answer it? ~*Brian*~ says: I did. ... There are worlds, hiding behind words, and words with worlds within ... says: Okay, then; How do you know you feel that way for her. [11:40:16 PM] ... There ar: .. There are worlds, hiding behind words, and words with worlds within ... says: ... Then if you'd please answer it? ~*Brian*~ says: I did. ... There are worlds, hiding behind words, and words with worlds within ... says: Okay, then; How do you know you feel that way for her. ~*Brian*~ says: love is the most unexplainable thing that exists. you can't explain it, you just know when you feel it. ... There are worlds, hiding behind words, and words with worlds within ... says: ... Brian, you sound like a greeting card. ~*Brian*~ says: blah, I always sounds like something. ... There are worlds, hiding behind words, and words with worlds within ... says: ... ~*Brian*~ says: *shrugs* it's true ... There are worlds, hiding behind words, and words with worlds within ... says: I know. [11:43:24 PM] ... There ar: ... I wish you'd pay attention. [11:43:52 PM] They don't l: me? [11:43:58 PM] ... There ar: *frowns, nods* [11:44:03 PM] ... There ar: Look up. [11:44:10 PM] They don't l: i did. iread it all [11:44:14 PM] ... There ar: Mmm. [11:45:07 PM] They don't l: yeah.. [11:45:17 PM] ... There ar: Sorry. [11:45:55 PM] ... There ar: Uhm ... Well, I suppose I can let you go, if you'd ... Like to talk to him, alone, or ... Well, it's the internet, it's still private, but without me talking to you as well? [11:47:13 PM] They don't l: no. i'm fein talking to you too, matt [11:48:09 PM] ... There ar: *sigh* ... Is there anything else you want to talk about, or feel needs to be said/discussed? [11:49:19 PM] They don't l: not right now for me, but if you ever want to talk, i'm here. [11:49:30 PM] ... There ar: okay .. [11:50:17 PM] ... There ar: I'll leave you be, then ... Should go to sleep in the next few hours, too, yknow ... Sweetest dreams, sleep softly. [11:50:36 PM] They don't l: lovely nightmares, matt .--------------------------------------------------------------------. | Session Start: Monday, February 13, 2006 | | Participants: | | ...can't fucking do this anymore .. (cruel_reality@hotmail.com) | | ...panies To Make People Feel Like Crap~ (briansalo1@yahoo.com) | .--------------------------------------------------------------------. [05:53:02 PM] ~Valentines : ..hey [05:53:07 PM] ... I can't : ... What. [05:53:20 PM] ~Valentines : random hello [05:53:24 PM] ... I can't : ...Yeah. Hi. [05:53:30 PM] ... I can't : What do you want this time? [05:54:02 PM] ~Valentines : just chatting, there isn't anybody that I talk to online really other than you. [05:54:59 PM] ... I can't : ...oH thanks. [05:55:19 PM] ~Valentines : and I usually talk to you when I'm on.. [05:56:40 PM] ... I can't : ...Yeah. If you can't tell, having a pretty goddamn shitty time, over here. [05:57:39 PM] ~Valentines : yeah, I know, but I also know you well enough to know that no amount of apology would really change anything, so there is no real purpose in trying to. [05:58:35 PM] ... I can't : ... It's not even just YOU, right now. Ever think of that one? [05:58:51 PM] ... I can't : ... You dont need to know much about me to know that, either. [05:59:15 PM] ~Valentines : I guess, I just more assumed it was the whole situation with me and such now [06:02:45 PM] ... I can't : Yeah. You're a biiig fucking part. But not all. [06:05:46 PM] ... I can't : My friend Haylee? The night I lost my phone, last week? She was talking to me, crying, because of a friend of her's who ran into a tree while skiing, and has a shortterm amnesia. Her exboyfriend, was also recently exposed as being a child molester. He's going to an adult prison. He's 18. He was fingering a 5 year old that vists with her mom every once in a while. Holly? Collapsed, on the job, from burnout. She went into the hospital. Leah? Battling cancer. Again. And seemingly-eternal sickness. Me? Constantly, -always- being crushed in some form, between you and Emma and my mom and my dad. I could keep going. This isnt half the shit I have to let run through my mind, every day. [06:07:18 PM] ~Valentines : holy shit dude. [06:07:26 PM] ~Valentines : its a miracle you're still vertical. [06:07:38 PM] ... I can't : Holly, Haylee, leah, Emma, you, Fiona, Natalie, Lily, Darby, Jessica ... They've all got a story. I used to put myself in the middle of it all, because I had strength, and people to draw on. Now? I've got NOTHING. At-fucking-all. [06:09:24 PM] ~Valentines : I stand by the same comment. [06:12:13 PM] ... I can't : I'm ready to fucking snap. Leave me alone. Go kiss my ex for a while. Play with her hair. Tickle her feet. Caress her cheek. Give her eskimo kisses. Sing songs with her on the living room floor. She likes all that. But leave me the fuck alone for today. You can't help me. And I dont need any more crap. [06:13:43 PM] ~Valentines : ok, I'll respect your want for me to leave you alone, just take care of yourself though, stay on the top side of the grass. [06:14:15 PM] ... I can't : Whatever you say, Brian ... whatever you say ... [06:14:20 PM] * ~Valentines Day Is A Day Created By The Greeting Card Companies To Make People Feel Like Crap~ has been blocked
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AzureSkyy.
Published: February 13, 2006
Editor: stacy